Learning When Enough's Enough
Hello you lovely lot!
How are you this wet and windy Wednesday? Better than the weather I hope. I'm ready for Spring to spring already please.
Anyway on to this weeks post, I've recently read a few brilliant blogs by and about small businesses and yet again i'm struck with that lovely communal feel that we're all in it together. Helen from The Creative Business Network recently posted about Having A Wobble and I loved her resilience and reminder that it's totally normal. We all have days where we feel a bit hopeless, we all have customers we love and some we... don't love quite as much. Challenges face us all but I always find that it helps to know you aren't the only one sitting in the kitchen crying into your cup of tea and stress eating biscuits as though it's the last opportunity you'll ever have to eat sugar. No, you're not the only one doing this.
The small business community is there for the good and the bad time together, comparing notes on sales figure panic, resources and suppliers, notonthehighstreet.com's curation policy (!), Photography and branding tips, personal support and so much more. All you need to do is tap into one of these groups and I have no doubt you'll be embraced with open arms and a willingness to help wherever possible (as long as you're not treading on someone else copyright in which case you'd be banished and abashed! But I'm certain that's not you!)
One thing that I'm sure we all do is take on too much and give ourselves a very VERY hard time. For a community of people who are so wonderful to each other, why are we so horrible to ourselves?
Recently I've been guilty of increasing my personal and work load and rather than making allowances for that I just grow the To-Do list and beat myself up when I undoubtedly fail to complete it. In the last 6 months i've planned and celebrated a wedding, worked 18 hour days, 7 days a week for 3 months to cover Christmas, Purchased, sold and moved house, started to decorate, travelled to Cuba, kept up with orders, designed new lines, updated a years worth of accounts, applied for VAT registration, started the search for more knitters, increased Trade orders and taken on a bloody huge 'secret project' that has been amazing but SO much more work than I imagined. Is it any wonder that my To-Do list is suffering?
Yet still, like so many of you I'm sure; I sit there and tell myself I'm not good enough and I need to do more. How is this fair? As pointed out in The Creative Business Network's post "We aren't superhuman" so let's not allow our personal expectations to take over and rule our lives. Instead, let's step back and set realistic guidelines and sensible to do lists. Put the rest on a 'when there's time' list and just do what you can for now. Jenny Hyde recently wrote another great post about 'Saying No'. It's a brilliant resource that breaks it down much more articulately that I ever could and has solutions to make 'busy' more manageable.
I'll leave you there so as not to take up more of your limited time but please do remember that you're not alone and that you can control when enough is enough, simply edit the To-Do list a little better.